Last week, we identified the four people (behaviors) that trauma produces. Today, I’m reviewing the five (5) stages of grief in the trauma recovery process. Let me begin by saying that grief is something you never overcome; it’s something you endure. However, what was once a painful memory can eventually evolve into acceptance and a better psychological,...
Last week, we explored the effects of trauma on mental, emotional, and physical health. Today, we examine the four types of people (human behaviors) that trauma produces. Please understand that these are not labels, but psychological behaviors (i.e., individual responses to external stimuli).
The victim is a person who suffers from an injurious or destructive action that’s beyond their control (e.g., accident, illness, violence, sudden or unexpected death, or act of...
“Some days, trauma memories still knock the wind out of me.” – Unknown
Last week, we explored the foundational concepts of trauma, and I provided examples of traumatic events. If you have not yet read my blog post, I encourage you to do so before proceeding (or you may want to re-read it to refresh your memory).
Today, I’m discussing how trauma affects the mind, body, and emotions. In the throes of pain, it’s often difficult to...
Mental Health Awareness Week runs from October 3-9, 2021, so I thought this month would be an ideal time to highlight trauma (which also happens to be my area of specialization). This is the first segment of our 4-part blog series. Today, we explore foundational concepts of trauma, including different types of traumatic experiences.
Trauma is any event that causes psychological, emotional, or physical harm. A traumatic event can also be referred to as a...
This is the final post of our September boundary series. I'm hoping you can now finally imagine living your life on YOUR terms. A balanced life whereby you dictate how and with whom you spend your time and resources.
As I close out this series, I want to ensure that you have the tools you need to set and stick to healthy boundaries -- the invisible lines you draw around yourself to protect you from being used and manipulated by others.
As we continue our personal boundaries series, imagine an invisible fence set around yourself, with a single gate that is shut and locked, and only you possess the key. How does that make you feel?
When you have healthy personal boundaries, you’ve established a space around yourself that YOU control. You've set limits that communicate to others how far they can go when interacting with you. You decide if and when to open the gate, and who you will allow in your personal space.
The problem with personal boundaries is that the world has a way of pushing against them. There will always be people who want more of your time, more of your energy, more of you. When you have set personal boundaries, thankfully, there are things you can do to guard and keep them strong.
Earlier this month, we began our series on boundaries. Perhaps you have personal boundaries, but they don’t seem to be working. Maybe you still feel that people are taking unfair advantage of you, and your self-esteem is taking a constant hit.
Chances are you need to take a serious look at your personal boundaries. It's possible that the ones that used to work don’t anymore because you aren’t the same person. Or it’s time for a tune-up, so that you not only strengthen your existing boundaries, but also make them healthier.
Here are some signs that indicate your boundaries need work:
Welcome to Week 2 of our September series on personal boundaries! This week, we're reviewing seven reasons why people fail to set boundaries.
You know you really need to establish boundaries, but you just can't seem to get there, (which is not as abnormal as you might think). Here are some reasons why we don't set boundaries:
For the Month of September, I've decided to focus on personal boundaries. You’ve probably heard the phrase before, but may not be sure what it means. Exactly what are personal boundaries, and what difference do they make in our lives?
To understand the importance of setting personal boundaries, you must first know what a boundary is:
bound·a·ry (noun) -- a dividing line that marks the limits of an area
Most boundaries, as the above graphic illustrates, are relatively easy to see. For example, yellow tape protecting crime scenes, fences, highway dividers, and white lines marking off parking spaces. A personal boundary does the same thing – only on a more invisible and internal level. Let's take a closer look.
What is a boundary?
Are you stuck in a rut? Not just a rut, but a completely furnished rut? It’s not necessarily a bad thing to be stuck, but to stay stuck is a problem.
If you're stuck and desperate to find a way out of your rut, I’d like to share with you a few strategies for getting unstuck and moving forward.
Identify root cause. Before you can find a solution for any problem, you must first identify its root cause. A simple way to do this is using the 5 Whys technique where you repeat the question Why? five times, and each answer forms the basis of the next question. This interrogative technique is used to explore the cause-effect relationship underlying the problem. Not all problems have a single root cause, so you would need to repeat this method using a different set of questions each time. Here's an example:
Problem – I got a speeding ticket.