In its simplest form, grief is our response to loss. Grief is our natural response to someone or something that has been taken away. While many people tend to associate grief with the loss of a loved one, grief can result from any loss such as the loss of a significant relationship, a pet, safety, freedom, health, a limb, bodily functions, a job, a home, financial stability, a dream, or an opportunity. Even subtle losses can trigger grief: moving away from your childhood home, relocating to a new city, graduating from college, or changing jobs. Unresolved grief can be passed down through generations; take a toll on our minds, bodies, and spirits; affect relationships; and prevent us from moving forward.
Traditionally, grief emphasized our emotional response to loss. The concept of grief has since evolved, and we can now explore the physical, cognitive, behavioral, cultural,...
This is the final post of our September boundary series. I'm hoping you can now finally imagine living your life on YOUR terms. A balanced life whereby you dictate how and with whom you spend your time and resources.
As I close out this series, I want to ensure that you have the tools you need to set and stick to healthy boundaries -- the invisible lines you draw around yourself to protect you from being used and manipulated by others.
As we continue our personal boundaries series, imagine an invisible fence set around yourself, with a single gate that is shut and locked, and only you possess the key. How does that make you feel?
When you have healthy personal boundaries, you’ve established a space around yourself that YOU control. You've set limits that communicate to others how far they can go when interacting with you. You decide if and when to open the gate, and who you will allow in your personal space.
The problem with personal boundaries is that the world has a way of pushing against them. There will always be people who want more of your time, more of your energy, more of you. When you have set personal boundaries, thankfully, there are things you can do to guard and keep them strong.
Earlier this month, we began our series on boundaries. Perhaps you have personal boundaries, but they don’t seem to be working. Maybe you still feel that people are taking unfair advantage of you, and your self-esteem is taking a constant hit.
Chances are you need to take a serious look at your personal boundaries. It's possible that the ones that used to work don’t anymore because you aren’t the same person. Or it’s time for a tune-up, so that you not only strengthen your existing boundaries, but also make them healthier.
Here are some signs that indicate your boundaries need work:
Welcome to Week 2 of our September series on personal boundaries! This week, we're reviewing seven reasons why people fail to set boundaries.
You know you really need to establish boundaries, but you just can't seem to get there, (which is not as abnormal as you might think). Here are some reasons why we don't set boundaries:
For the Month of September, I've decided to focus on personal boundaries. You’ve probably heard the phrase before, but may not be sure what it means. Exactly what are personal boundaries, and what difference do they make in our lives?
To understand the importance of setting personal boundaries, you must first know what a boundary is:
bound·a·ry (noun) -- a dividing line that marks the limits of an area
Most boundaries, as the above graphic illustrates, are relatively easy to see. For example, yellow tape protecting crime scenes, fences, highway dividers, and white lines marking off parking spaces. A personal boundary does the same thing – only on a more invisible and internal level. Let's take a closer look.
What is a boundary?